I purchased the total transformation because I was not being effective in my parenting skills and needed guidance. I am very pleased with the system and would highly recommend it to anyone who is having difficulty with their child/children.

My teenage son was out of control. He was failing school, he was abusive at home. Since using TTT I have also realized how much my two teenage daughters were flying under the radar. We were so focused on our son because he was the most vocal and defiant child that we dismissed our daughters' behaviors

We have a child with tourettes and ODD. He was having behavioral problems and nothing we did seemed to work. He is currently on medication for his tourettes but we couldn't get a hold on his behaviors until we began this program. We are a work in progress but we have seen a big difference in his behavior.

Losing 'the battle' with 9 year old son. Needed tools to make changes. Parenting style ineffective with son and did not know what to do. Professional counselor suggested Total Transformation Program and had heard advertisement on XM Radio. Very pleased with material. I had read a lot of Christian books on raising kids but none seemed to understand or directly adress the issues my wife and I were having with our son. I am beginning to implement many of the strategies and recommendations that Mr. Lehman has recommended. It has helped me already get better control of myself and given me a 'game plan' for dealing with inappropriate behaviour. Thank you.

I was desperate to regrain control of my children's bad behavior. Within 5 days I was able to get trough to them. I used the tools you gave and it worked. I used the contract system on my daughter who had been using drugs. She broke the verbal contract so we went to the simple contract. She broke that one as well and we proceeded to the next one.The turf contract. It had stopped there. She has been clean for 2 months now. The Total Transformation Program has worked for many areas in my home. I have 9 children with different issues. I have reccommended it to many people.

The information in TT is great and was very educational for all my kids, even the two without behavior problems. The only suggestion would be to offer more information on what to do when your child still refuses to _______. Much of the information is if this happens, then do this. Well, with behavior problems, often the solution is met with the same resistence or non-cooperative response as usual. My child is 6, leaving him at the mall to find his way home is not an option. Like I said, the information is wonderful and much of it is working or at least being implemented with results pending. I just would like a little more in suggestions for dealing with continued resistence even AFTER I've done the recommended solution.

Very informative in reinforcing tough love concepts in training our childern they have to be responsible for their own actions and respectful of others.

The program has given me stratagies in dealing with my teenage son that have really helped. The program is also very motivating and comforting. It gives me a feeling of hope. The newsletter via e-mail is also a great help.

I bought the program because I was keeping my grandson a lot whose parents are divorced. He was starting to school and stayed in trouble all the time. I just didnt know how to help him or his mother. I bought the program, listened to it and applied it and I saw it begin to work. I wasnt sure how to approach his mother with it so I waited. On one particularly bad day when she picked him up, I shared the program with her.
She gladly accepted it and assured me she was not insulted. Now my grandson
jumps off the bus and cant wait to tell me how well his day went. All HAPPY FACES!!

The Total Transformation is excellent. It has helped change by son's behavior for the better. I only wish I knew about it sooner. The way that it explains the connection between children's behavior and parenting is the key toward success. Many thanks to you Mr. Lehman! Darlene Milone

Excellent guidelines and very factual. I did have difficulty applying it in a constant manner because of the summer break and not being together with my teenage daughter all the time. But it takes time and I definitely am decided to go by the program. I did not find anything else even close that would make to change behaviour and I have a difficult daughter. Now I am away for three weeks and I am watching from distance if anything changed. Some thiongs did change right away, but the road ahead still has distance to go. Excellent program though.

I have really enjoyed the program I have listened to/worked through thus far. It has made positive changes in my home with my kids, as well as in my classroom with my students.

I think the program is GREAT! It has helped my husband and me to understand our child better and to deal with his behavior problems in a way that we are not mad at each other. It is very difficult to get a man (not judging, just saying) to find the time to listen to all the discs! I have trapped him in the car on road trips and hooked up my iPhone to the stereo and we listened together.

I am the step-mom so I see the behavior problems and how our teen his manipulated his family for so long. I have tried to talk to my husband about our son for so long but he just thinks I am "too hard" on him (mainly because the teen has told his Dad that). Having someone else explain how these kids work and manipulate opened his eyes like I never could! It is wonderful to have the everyday examples and SHOW parents how manipulated they are and how destructive that is for the child and the whole family. Having a guide to go by to tell parent's what to do - I mean specifically what to do and what to say makes all the difference!

A lot of programs or counselors say, understand him, be consistent, don't get angry, love your child! Well DUH! But how exactly do you do that with a 13 year old yelling at you and blaming everyone else in the world for his problems?


Total Transformation has given us the words and actions to make our house a better home for our teen, us, and our other two kid. The other 2 younger boys used to have to be ignored because all our parenting energy was spent on one kid! The other two do what they were supposed to (most of the time), are respectful, and are not abusive to us yet they usually did not get the time and attention they needed because we were always dealing with the problem child and getting nowhere!

Our home is less stressful, our marriage is stronger, and we enjoy our kids more.

Thanks for your help!

What really paid for itself for us was actually the bonus cd included. My husband and I were having problems with consistency. The bonus cd helped us to come up with the words and phrases we needed to take the volatility out of our relationship with our son. Once we did that within a couple of weeks were on a better path. We just needed to stop talking so much and start listening to our son more! The bonus cd helped us do that. Thanks! The rest of the program we are taking slow and look at it as a "rest of life" program as our kids get older. Our son is only 4 - so we are trying to make sure we stop problems now and start on the right path.

Was very impressed with the breakdown of the cd's and workbook. It has really helped identify my ineffective coping skills and my son's motives. In doing so, I now know how to manage my reactions and break some bad parenting habits. Having grown up in an abusive home, I strived not to follow suit, however, I did not have effective skills to deal with a defiant, abusive child - now I am feeling a lot more confident in stopping the behavior before it really gets rolling. Thank You.

Total Transformation has helped me realize the enormity of my role in my child's life. I am no linger a passive parent reacting to misbehavior. I understand the importance of having rules and consequences in minimizing daily conflict at home and at school. I cannot thank you enough!

I think the material has come to me at the right time in life. I apprecialte it very much it has real meat to it. Thanks alot. Diane Morrison, mother of Daniel age 9

This is a terrific program which is presented in a clear, straightforward and solidly practical fashion. It helps in that elusive and often confusing relationship called parenting. The help line is a terrific resource if needed for harder-to-handle situations. Anyone can benefit from this program who handles kids, I purchased one for my school. Thanks for all your insightful pearls!

It has really helped. I saw a change in my son's behavior almost immediately. There is still a long way to go to solve all the issues, but at least i feel equipped to handle things.

This program has already taught me so much about my expectations as a parent of my children. Now I have much more effective tools to use and our household is already the better for it!

My husband and I didn't expect much from this program but we aalso didn't want to send our daughter to an unknown boarding school especially since there were none in our area to check out before sending her. We got this program as a last resort. It didn't see like it would work (I guess we had tried so many things without success) when we listened to the CDs. But we learned a lot and although our daughter still makes some poor decisions, her behavior is much improved and our home has again become mostly a pleasant place to be.

I think the information is extremely helpful. I am a school counselor and I intend to share it with parents and teachers. People need practical techniques and straight talk and this program offers just that. Therefore, it offers hope, an essential component of the change process. I wish I had had this information when my children were growing up.

When I first heard ads for the Total Transformation, I wasn't crazy about the name and thought it was promising too much. But after it was recommended by Ellen Braun of Raising Small Souls, I decided to try it, and I've been really impressed. The approach is realistic, the topics are relevant, and I like James Lehman's style of talking to parents. Top notch - and I really enjoy the Empowering Parents newsletters. thanks!

The information seems so natural and true. It has to work.

Worked day one! We couldn't be happier! Thank you!