We have used this program to help assist our foster parents in better understanding the behaviors of the children in their homes as well as give them better "tools" to deal with those behaviors.

We have been pleased with the product. We have seen a change in our daughter's behavior and improved family life.

I found this program to be down to earth and easy to follow. A good common sense package, I have already suggested it to many other parents and we are applying many principals in our own family. A program worth listening too more than once

School systems being the bureaucracies they are, we have not really had a chance to review all the materials from the program. We were rushed into putting our little boy into a "Managed Attention Program" (also known as Special Ed). It was that or constant suspension from school, ostracism, and humiliation. Between the daily behavior sheets and home book they send back every day, there is little time to do much more than respond, intervene, etc. The articles in the newsletter are very good, and encouraging. Our son was diagnosed as ADHD. We do not accept this diagnosis or the horrifying solution offered (psychotropics, mood enhancers, anti-depressants). Using the techniques of the TT program, together with the loving assistance of the program he's in, we are seeing wonderful progress. In school, they are employing EXACTLY Mr. Lehman's techniques: consistency, accountability, consequences (and rewards) applied fairly and intelligently. Although we believe our child to be more gifted than he is afflicted, at least he doesn't feel like a freak and can achieve academically.

I wish I had heard your commercial and ordered your product three years ago. I would have saved so much time, aggravation, and money; and my child would have been on track to a happier self earlier. Your understanding of the issues surrounding the challenges associated with parenting an ADHD child have cleared the confusion and angst we had been dealing with. Your tools to parent our child are refreshingly straight forward. After listening to only one CD, I was exposed to more information and help than three years of "beating around the bush" therapy. You just come right out and say what needs to be said. You don't tip toe around the issues at hand. You have helped me parent my child with a strong hand which has gained me respect and obedience which had been non-existent in the past. Thank you so much for developing this program. I have recommended it to many of my friends who have had similar challenges.

It's so helpful to understand what's going on when a child is acting out and how to respond appropriately. Being able to respond appropriately using the tools we learned from the Total Transformation eliminated the feelings of helplessness and frustration. We can now parent with a pro-active approach instead of a reactive approach. We have seen a slow but steady positive change in our daughter since we have been using the Total Transformation.

This product was helpful in showing me how I was sabotaging my children's progress by my parenting style. I believe that all parents have good intentions (at least I hope so) but, good intentions and bad parenting do not work well together. Thank you so much by helping me to become a better parent.

Immediately after listening to the CD's things at home started to shift. The Transformational theories and techniques gave us access to managing a 17 year old in a way that gives us much more peace at home and allows space for our daughter to learn and grow. I wish I had listened to them 16 years ago.
Interesting note, these ideas have helped with my communications day to day with adults ( perhaps we are all fundamentally 6 years old)
From the first call to your customer service people to implementing your ideas our total experience with The Total Transformation Program has been remarkable and truly exceed all my expectations - Thank you

I have had nothing short of breakthroughs with my child since using the principles in the Total Transformation. I think the presentation could be better...shorter, more to the point, and more issue oriented so that I could easily review based on the issue I'm having, but that said, it has been wonderful.

The content of your material was extremely helpful and useful. It has helped me to be able to take charge of my situation with my teenager and no longer allow her to manipulate me into getting her way. Now only if I can get my husband to listen and learn the same valuable lessons!!

Changing behavior is difficult- this program is a great support system for handing difficult behavior and supporting parents.

When I started the program with my husand we learned to stick together to stay onboard with what we had to do. Lets just say using the techniques at home my son knows no means no and his behavior depends on his rewards. There's some argueing but I'm sure after time there won't be. It's immperative that both parents are on the same page and that your CONSISTENT. You are absolutely right, you don't need your conselour is you follow the simple steps. I love the program and wish we had it sooner. Again, schools should have this as a behavior plan for all kids. I can't write enough about this program. NO.1 in the Archambaul's house. Thank you James Lehman for giving us a our respectful son back.

I gave the program to my daughter and she likes it a lot. She has a 12 & 9 yr old. I forward the emails to her also. The basics of this program are classic and are tried and true.

I haven't used the program to the fullest, but what I have used are the little tips and phrases that are so easy to remember in those heated moments.

I'm listening to the CDs for a second time now. Good material, I implemented some of the items, now I'm going back for a refresher.

Helps keep me focussed and on track with my kids.

The CD's and program make sense and we have had a few changes already. I particularly like the support line, I would not be able to follow through without some type of help.

The information in the CDs is right to the point. I would rather listen to the thoughts and ideas of James Lehman than our psychologist. James is "right-on" when he describes children. He knows what he's talking about, even though he's never seen my son. I'm only half-way through the program, and three of the techniques I've been using that are working are: teaching my son how to problem solve rather than "barking out" orders to him; second, teaching my son to apologize and not only say "sorry", but to say what he's sorry for (take accountability for his actions); and third, learning to "disconnect" (or walk away) from my son so he has no one to "act out" in front of.
The changes are little and seem to be infrequent, and it's very frustrating, but there are times when I see a light at the end of the tunnel. The parental support line is excellent; however, I need it most when they are closed: evenings and weekends!

I really should not be reviewing the system yet because I have not gone through everything yet. The program seems to be full of common sense and focuses on the real issues. There are also some great and unique insights. James's warning about emtionalism being a substitute (and a poor one) for love is something I haven't heard before or thought of in just that way. I think it is profound. I know I have often equated my enormous feelings of worry and fear over my children with my great love for them but love does so much more. Love gets in the trenches and the muck and does the hard work of helping a child to learn how to handle his problems in a more constructive. Love doesn't just sit there and feel great emotion about the tragedy of a situation; love roles up its sleeves and does something to help. Sounds like a contemporary version of St. Paul's letter to the Corinthians on love. I think James is giving us the tools to help and to love our children. I think the Support Line is wonderful as I don't always "get it" the first time. The counselor was so helpful and patient; she did not rush me off the phone as if my time were up for the month.
I love the emphasis on helping the child learn better problem solving skills. This seems to be the point rather than having a strict system of rewards and set "consequences".
Our situation is not unique but it is extreme. We have lots of anger; my children (now two teenage) boys have seen and experienced anger and abuse. They have learned that it gets people to leave you alone or to do what you want. Unlearning this will take time but I do think James has given me tools to help that I had not even thought of before. It is so wonderful to know there's still hope even when your children tower over you and have no hesitancy about the lanquage they use toward you. I am hopeful and I would like to write another review in about six months.
Another thing I love is that you don't expect a parent to be superhuman and perfectly consistent. So much advice to parents today depends on these qualities and is doomed to make the parents fail and feel guilty! Thank you for talking to us where we are.

I am actually only on CD #5. Wonderful information. I love the way James speaks, like someone who really KNOWS. Refreshing. I believe it is worth the money. I wold recommend it to anyone. I have not used the support line or customer service, hence the 1 star. I'm sure they are fantastic.

My husband and I had been to several counselors, including family counseling with our daughter. She had run away several times, stolen a vehicle from our home, lied, swore at us, spent time in a residential facility, and we still had no sense that we had any control, but that she set her own rules. This program was the instruction manual we were looking for. We always felt like we walked on egg shells to keep peace in our family, and that we had to lower our standards in order to keep that peace. The program helped us understand that we could not use the tools our parents had used, or even the ones that had worked for our older son. It showed us that we weren't bad parents, and that we weren't alone. The tools made sense, and did not make us feel like we had to have PhD's in child psychology. They were the tools we always wanted to employ, but now we had the confidence that we were doing the right thing. Our daughter recognized the change and the excuses, backtalk, and disrespect stopped. I wish we had done this earlier. The support line is very helpful. Thanks does not say enough.

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