I think this is a good program but I think it's based on the premise that you can actually reason with your child. When your teenager immediately goes on the defensive and is abusive as soon as a conversation starts, it's rather difficult to use the various techniques suggested. I have tried to use several of the techniques and some have worked but it's not that often I'm dealing with a rational teenager who really listens to what I'm saying. We will continue with the suggestions along with her regular therapy to see if we can make some positive changes.

My son started on my scale of 2.5 and now having used the total tranformation program for about 2 months he is about an 7.5. We still deal with some behavior issues that haven't been totally resolved like getting to school every day on time and doing homework which he is working on, but we see less and less of the blatent disrespect and that is a big change. He has become much more responsible or at least willing to take the responsibility for what he needs to. He no longer blames me for everything. I wish that I had known about this program a long time ago!!! We laugh together every day now. And our house is no longer a battlefield but instead is peaceful. Thanks for making it available for people like me - it's so nice to have a new outlook on life for our family.

I am completely impressed with the Total Transformation Program as a tool to develop effective parenting skills. Before listening to the program, I was constantly looking for excuses (i.e. sick, not enough sleep,etc.) to justify certain inappropriate behaviors because I was under the illusion that my daughter's behavior could not be attributed to my ineffective parenting style but rather something beyond my control. In fact, my daughter was in therapy for a short while and the theraspist approach, like mine, was to concentrate on why my daughter was feeling a certain way or acting a certain way and not on how she was being parented. After applying many of the techniques in the program, I have noticed a significant change in behavior and am happy to report that our life has become a little calmer since the power struggles have become less frequent. Thank you.

This program will be great for me when my kids get older. This program is a liitle hard to implement with toddlers up to 5. That's the ages of my kids. Sorry I couldn't be more help. I am looking foreward to using as my kids get older though.

I enjoyed the program but feel like I need to go back and refresh my memory or come up with additional strategies. Every day is a challenge with my 10 year old boy as opposed to my 8 and 4 year old boys. The program was really eye opening and there is still alot I need to do with my 10 year old. The techniques work most of the time with my youngest but I am still in need of assistance with the 10 year old and sending him to Army Boot Camp is sounding better and better.

I have read just about every book under the sun about discipline and adhd kids. The information was lacking to say the least. When I came across The Total Transformation program, at first i was apprehensive because of the price. Then I got to a point where I had no where else to go and decided to give it a shot. i am happy I made that decision. James is brilliant and his knowledge is outstandingly direct. I tell everyone I know about this program. It is even good information for kids that don't have defiant issues so I tell people with kids that behave. This program is priceless...I wish I could have access to James personally though because sometimes it is hard to be consistent as a single parent. I still need to apply all the the tools myself but from what I have applied it has been a Godsend. Thanks a million!

I think there is so much information given that it is almost impossible to use the program. I can't remember all the things he talks about and so it's hard to be consistant with this program

Our home had been a virtual battle zone for years. Although our twelve year old son also required other therapy,(neurofeedback)it was the addition of The Total Transformation Program that gave us the tools we needed to be better parents and to more effectively guide our child toward better behaviors.The most valuable lesson we learned was the need for BOTH parents to unite, set boundaries and stay on the same page.At first, we chuckled at how many times in the Total Transformation series, we are advised to "say___and walk away"... or to "stop the car", etc but that WORKS. There have been dramatic, positive changes over the past few months! We have strongly recommended this program to several friends who are also struggling with various behavioral issues.

It was a great program I liked being give tools for me to use with my son. Other options we have used did not provide this and they ended up not working.

It would be nice it legacy parenting had a list of agenceys or web sites that can offer referals based on location.

It's awesome!

I was very please with the tapes, it helped me to better understand my daughter, her behavior, and improved our relationship. Although, the tapes usually are geared towards adolescents, it seemed to work beautifully for my seven year old too!

The program is successful when used because of its continuity. Everything seemed to be connected and the logic was useful. I adapted and used it for dealing with abberant behavior in my students.

This program gives you the tools required to parent a child who has a strong will and try to channel their anger in a different way so that you have a child who is less defiant and more cooperative.

The Program was great confirmed my inner beliefs would like more hands on or direct incorperation/examples of usage of philosophies

I am glad that I ordered the Total Transformation Program. Before getting the program, my son had low self esteem. He was having problems in school. He was getting low grades. Now I am amazed at how fast his grades are improving. He has more confidence in himself and he is much happier. Everyone around him is much happier, too.

The program is well thought out, without all the feel-good self esteem psychobabble one usually is fed as a tool for behavioral change. There are hard lessons in here, not only for confused kids, but also for their parents. Parents will have to kick themselves for having kicked themselves for so long! I learned that as long as I was taking responsiblity for my child's behavior, then he didn't have to do it! This program is more work than one might think - you have to roll up your sleeves and get after it - no lazy parenting! But the rewards of actually following this method outweigh the hard work of consistency. Hats off to Total Transformation!

I am so grateful to have ordered this program. It truly has been life changing. It openend my eyes to ways my child was using her behavior to avoid accountability, both at home and at school, that I was not able to see myself. (*I was blind...but now I see!) And it gave me the tools that I needed to work with her to keep re-directing her; set clear, consise managageable & measurable goals; and to be the parent she needs me to be. I have learned more thru this program than any books I have read; or resources I have used. It gives very clear information and the tools necessary to begin and ultimately change your childs behavior-step by step. I believe this program changed our lives. It was worth every penny. If you can look within yourself to change your parenting skills to accomodate your childs needs, this program is for you. The benefits are truly amazing. You & your family are worth it!

I am so grateful to have ordered this program. It truly has been life changing. It openend my eyes to ways my child was using her behavior to avoid accountability, both at home and at school, that I was not able to see myself. (*I was blind...but now I see!) And it gave me the tools that I needed to work with her to keep re-directing her; set clear, consise managageable & measurable goals; and to be the parent she needs me to be. I have learned more thru this program than any books I have read; or resources I have used. It gives very clear information and the tools necessary to begin and ultimately change your childs behavior-step by step. I believe this program changed our lives. It was worth every penny. If you can look within yourself to change your parenting skills to accomodate your childs needs, this program is for you. The benefits are truly amazing. You & your family are worth it!

It is great to have a program so supportive of parents trying to navagate raising their children 's lives in times of crisis. I found this system fab.

We are on disk 4 of the program, have used many of the tools so far and our daughters are cognizant of the program and are learning the skills that are needed. We are impressed with how some of the skills are learned in such a short period of time. We have called the Parentl Support line a couple of times and used the advice successfully. We will continue with the program and ingrain the parental skills in order to help our daughters learn how to cope in today's world. My hat is off to James and his team.

The program supports things I learned from a parent support group I attended last spring. It was based on the tough love concept.

By the time I learned of your program, my son was within two months of turning 18. He had stolen over $8,500 from us, was drinking, not coming home on time or at all, not calling, not ansering his cell phone. Had there in school suspensions in the first six weeks of senior year. He cut over 110 classes from 9/07 to today. He had been to five therapists, in the PINS Prevention and PINS programs. I started using your techniques, but NOTHING worked with this boy. Based on his refusal to follow the rules, we told him to leave our house last Friday. It has been very difficult to do this as we don't don't if he will ever return home.

I am a well educated person raised in loving, stable home. I was unprepared for difficulties I faced with several of my children. They exhibited severe tantrums, uncontrolled yelling, hitting. there were many characteristics that made me wonder about various psychological disorders. I was at my wits end after being bitten, hit, lied about, etc and was having zero results. Now my home is peaceful and ordered, and all the kids are happy as well. I was amazed how quickly I was able to make the program work. The key for me is not so much discussing things after they happen and helping learn lessons (though I do try to do this too). The key for me has been constantly reminding them of the priveleges they like (which previously I had looked upon as not that big of deals) and going over with them the things they like, refocusing them on those things, then taking them back hard to what their behavior is about to cost them when they get their priveleges taken away. "your so close, don't blow it now." "don't do it". I sound like a clone of the CD audios of lehman (and some of my kids are even repeating some of the phrases, have kidding, but also just because they like the way it sounds).

before I never could get my daughter to focus on how her actions were going to affect her, or get her to stop herself, stop because of upcoming punishment etc - now she is able to focus on something else quite quickly! (the things she likes) realize she is about to lose them, and then quickly change her behavior.

in addition the amount of trouble incidents, and especially tantrums have dribbled down to very few.

life is great! all the kids are helping clean up. i can't express enough how much this program has helped me in parenting and the relief it has given my spirit.

thanks much,

Frank Burch

I did enjoy learning about the total transformation process. I did find it difficult to work through with my children, however. I have concluded that this approach to discipline can be effective in part but that the many nuances that come with parenting cannot be handled with a program. I have kept the parts that I like and continue to use them.

While I was relieved that my kids are not as violent and lethargic as some described, the methods were empowering and a sense of control, serenity and order has returned to our home. We have 4 busy, active, vocal kids. The truths about tying consequences to misbehavior, never tolerating abuse (emotional tantrums, etc) was life-altering. This program gives the ticket to becoming the parent I know my kids need.

Only dislike was the flimsy packaging -- I listen to these in the car so a sturdier package needs to survive the car tumbling.

One thing that would be nice is less "discussion" I found myself getting impatient and skipping past the couple asking questions and the music and thinking, please get to the point. I understand the concept, and in most cases, I am sure that some parents/guardians would need that 'discussion' type format. But I preferred hearing Mr. Lehman only. Like the Ten Points disc. THAT was excellent and to the point. As in, "Problem" - "Solution", extremely helpful. I implemented the techniques and was pleased with the results. It helped us to get our'authority'and confidence back as parents. I didn't do much of the workbook, but plan on getting back into it. I just dove into the discs.

It is worth the price, worth the time and effort and I recommend it often to others. My only regret is not knowing about it sooner when my son was younger.