The program is well thought out, without all the feel-good self esteem psychobabble one usually is fed as a tool for behavioral change. There are hard lessons in here, not only for confused kids, but also for their parents. Parents will have to kick themselves for having kicked themselves for so long! I learned that as long as I was taking responsiblity for my child's behavior, then he didn't have to do it! This program is more work than one might think - you have to roll up your sleeves and get after it - no lazy parenting! But the rewards of actually following this method outweigh the hard work of consistency. Hats off to Total Transformation!

I am so grateful to have ordered this program. It truly has been life changing. It openend my eyes to ways my child was using her behavior to avoid accountability, both at home and at school, that I was not able to see myself. (*I was blind...but now I see!) And it gave me the tools that I needed to work with her to keep re-directing her; set clear, consise managageable & measurable goals; and to be the parent she needs me to be. I have learned more thru this program than any books I have read; or resources I have used. It gives very clear information and the tools necessary to begin and ultimately change your childs behavior-step by step. I believe this program changed our lives. It was worth every penny. If you can look within yourself to change your parenting skills to accomodate your childs needs, this program is for you. The benefits are truly amazing. You & your family are worth it!

I am so grateful to have ordered this program. It truly has been life changing. It openend my eyes to ways my child was using her behavior to avoid accountability, both at home and at school, that I was not able to see myself. (*I was blind...but now I see!) And it gave me the tools that I needed to work with her to keep re-directing her; set clear, consise managageable & measurable goals; and to be the parent she needs me to be. I have learned more thru this program than any books I have read; or resources I have used. It gives very clear information and the tools necessary to begin and ultimately change your childs behavior-step by step. I believe this program changed our lives. It was worth every penny. If you can look within yourself to change your parenting skills to accomodate your childs needs, this program is for you. The benefits are truly amazing. You & your family are worth it!

It is great to have a program so supportive of parents trying to navagate raising their children 's lives in times of crisis. I found this system fab.

We are on disk 4 of the program, have used many of the tools so far and our daughters are cognizant of the program and are learning the skills that are needed. We are impressed with how some of the skills are learned in such a short period of time. We have called the Parentl Support line a couple of times and used the advice successfully. We will continue with the program and ingrain the parental skills in order to help our daughters learn how to cope in today's world. My hat is off to James and his team.

The program supports things I learned from a parent support group I attended last spring. It was based on the tough love concept.

By the time I learned of your program, my son was within two months of turning 18. He had stolen over $8,500 from us, was drinking, not coming home on time or at all, not calling, not ansering his cell phone. Had there in school suspensions in the first six weeks of senior year. He cut over 110 classes from 9/07 to today. He had been to five therapists, in the PINS Prevention and PINS programs. I started using your techniques, but NOTHING worked with this boy. Based on his refusal to follow the rules, we told him to leave our house last Friday. It has been very difficult to do this as we don't don't if he will ever return home.

I am a well educated person raised in loving, stable home. I was unprepared for difficulties I faced with several of my children. They exhibited severe tantrums, uncontrolled yelling, hitting. there were many characteristics that made me wonder about various psychological disorders. I was at my wits end after being bitten, hit, lied about, etc and was having zero results. Now my home is peaceful and ordered, and all the kids are happy as well. I was amazed how quickly I was able to make the program work. The key for me is not so much discussing things after they happen and helping learn lessons (though I do try to do this too). The key for me has been constantly reminding them of the priveleges they like (which previously I had looked upon as not that big of deals) and going over with them the things they like, refocusing them on those things, then taking them back hard to what their behavior is about to cost them when they get their priveleges taken away. "your so close, don't blow it now." "don't do it". I sound like a clone of the CD audios of lehman (and some of my kids are even repeating some of the phrases, have kidding, but also just because they like the way it sounds).

before I never could get my daughter to focus on how her actions were going to affect her, or get her to stop herself, stop because of upcoming punishment etc - now she is able to focus on something else quite quickly! (the things she likes) realize she is about to lose them, and then quickly change her behavior.

in addition the amount of trouble incidents, and especially tantrums have dribbled down to very few.

life is great! all the kids are helping clean up. i can't express enough how much this program has helped me in parenting and the relief it has given my spirit.

thanks much,

Frank Burch

I did enjoy learning about the total transformation process. I did find it difficult to work through with my children, however. I have concluded that this approach to discipline can be effective in part but that the many nuances that come with parenting cannot be handled with a program. I have kept the parts that I like and continue to use them.

While I was relieved that my kids are not as violent and lethargic as some described, the methods were empowering and a sense of control, serenity and order has returned to our home. We have 4 busy, active, vocal kids. The truths about tying consequences to misbehavior, never tolerating abuse (emotional tantrums, etc) was life-altering. This program gives the ticket to becoming the parent I know my kids need.

Only dislike was the flimsy packaging -- I listen to these in the car so a sturdier package needs to survive the car tumbling.

One thing that would be nice is less "discussion" I found myself getting impatient and skipping past the couple asking questions and the music and thinking, please get to the point. I understand the concept, and in most cases, I am sure that some parents/guardians would need that 'discussion' type format. But I preferred hearing Mr. Lehman only. Like the Ten Points disc. THAT was excellent and to the point. As in, "Problem" - "Solution", extremely helpful. I implemented the techniques and was pleased with the results. It helped us to get our'authority'and confidence back as parents. I didn't do much of the workbook, but plan on getting back into it. I just dove into the discs.

It is worth the price, worth the time and effort and I recommend it often to others. My only regret is not knowing about it sooner when my son was younger.

Our family has seen amazing results with the Total Transformation Package. I am very pleased I had the courage to order your product. My children are happier, making better choices and we have dramatically increased the quality of our familylife. It has truly enriched our family experience and we are able to do things and be together like never before. From simple things like going out to dinner without incident to family vacations that are enjoyable for all. These things were not possible before the Total Transformation. I am a school teacher and it has been applicable in that area as well. I know I am a better parent, teacher and person because of the Total Transformation.

With The Total Transformation Program it helped me be more firm and finally more in control with my 4 year old son. He is very determined in getting his way with everyone but together we've learned to hear each other instead of screaming in the house.

We do not have full custody of our son and so we had to make a strong impact in the brief time we have. The program allowed us to be consistent and firm. Our son balked at the rules at first but we see that he prefers our home to his mother's now (she lets him run wild). We will always have ups and downs, but at least now we have the tools to cope.

The program is excellent. It provides useful tools that are simple to understand and very effective. I especially like the newsletters.

It works! The fighting has stopped and we've only gotten thru 3 disks.

I think the Total Transformation is an excellent program. It is logical and when I really thought about a lot of the things James talks about, there are really no surprises. It's amazing how far afield you can get from holding kids accoutable. It helped me to adopt a systematic approach to re-training my kids on what's acceptable behavior.

We are pleased with the program. However, I am disapointed with myself because we have not successfully completed the entire program, nor have we used the parental support line. Therefore, we continue to struggle as parents.

Every precept James Lehman teaches about in the Total Transformation program has the ring of truth about it. We recognized lots of things we already "knew," but which weren't clear or which we weren't sure how to go about implementing. I don't think there was a single issue that we have already faced or will be facing that was not addressed in the TTP.
In following this plan, it seems possible for anyone to be able to raise children to be happy and productive members of society.

We are still in the process of working through the program. From what we have done, I feel it is very helpful. Just understandng the behavior is such a help and then having a program to address that behavior is even a greater benefit. The behavior started prior to my daughter becoming physically ill. The program has helped, even knowing that some of the issues she has have been because of the chronic pain and illness she has. It has brought my husband and I closer, knowing that we are working from "the same page" under the premise that we love our child and are working together to make our home a more functional home.

I have the highest regard for the Total Transformation Program and for James Lehman. His own personal suffering, overcoming, and growth qualify him more than any formal degrees, though he has both as credentials. Because the program is based on behavioral science per se, I understand that behavioral aspects (rather than moral & spiritual aspects) are the emphasis. This is the only thing I'm not as fond of, because children receive only selfish motivations for positive behavior changes (i.e., the hope of reward or the fear of loss), versus learning to love others as themselves just because it's the right thing to do (because God says so). But I love Mr. Lehman's teachings and his proper emphasis on the child's accountability and acceptance of personal responsibility. When I finished going through the material the first time, things changed immediately. The kids shaped up, and I was relaxed and happy (I could enjoy my kids!) rather than angry and frustrated -- because I was confident in my parental authority and was now exercising it! I'd recommend this program to anybody.

We loved the program because it did help us get the power back and cut down on wasted arguing. however, there are apparently some children who are beyond help. our son is addicted to a computer game and any other videogames or wild shows will be a substitute if he is desperate for entertainment. Our computer room now has a deadbolt. our t.v. goes off automatically at 11 p.m. We take the remotes to our bedroom at night so he can't play DVD's, but he can still play videotapes. he is impossible. we have finally told him he is an addict and will never play games again in our house, because we have tried giving him time on the computer, and it's NEVER enough. he now just leaves when he gets home from school and goes to the library to play there, or to another kid's house. we have no control over where he goes and we have used all the techniques. you can't take things from him, because he doesn't care about things. you can't deny him activities, because he's not interested in any activities. it's not the fault of the program, but he has not been helped, but we have been. we are using our power and now have him picked up each day by a bus and taken to a special school for kids with learning problems, etc., at the expense of our school district (we got an advocate who helped us out). soon he will probably be sent away for full-time school/psychological care... Carol

This program is great! I've altered a few things to fit our situation since we are dealing with a 4 year old, but the results have proven to us that it's not too early to start. People are amazed that I can get my children to listen so effectively and this has changed our family dynamic for the better. This program is a God-send! Thank you!

This program has changed our lives!

i have found this program to be very helpful, esp. in that it helped me detach and not take my son's behavior personally.

I am a Grandmother and I do wish I would have had the total Transformation when my children were growing up I Bought the program for one of my daughters and it is so very informative.. things to say to the child that we didnt think of!Thank you !