As a mother of older teenagers, I have struggled with being consistent with making them accountable. Although I still need to work on this, the TTT progam has given me the words that I need to express myself, demand accountability and still be loving. The program has actually made me realize that my 17 yo son was disrespecting me often. (It also showed me this about husband, do you have a program for that? lol)
The parent support line is so very helpful. The kind woman at the other end of the wire listened to my whole story about my teenagers and was able to zero in on what actions I could take for which problems. She simplified these problems and actions for me.
Also as an educator of young children, I have learned through this program how to take the "accountability" I have used with 5 year olds to that of 17 & 19 year olds.
This program really opened my eyes to the ways I have been "tricked out" of holding my loved ones responsible. I hope and pray that it will continue to open my eyes and my heart, so that I can be a better mother to my children by setting them up for success in the real world.

This program is packed full of information that has helped me understand me and my parenting style as well as my son. I wish I would have listened to it years ago (my son is 13), but I am thankful for it now. It gives you the words you need to say when you feel powerless or overwhelmed. It enables you to take your emotion out of the equation, so you can parent your child. Thank you.

I must admit, we were skeptical. but in the first few minutes we found things that helped.

Excellent, excellent program for those looking for effective tools that work.

I would recommend it to anyone looking to be a more effective parent.

I do not have young children but have been able to share information from the Total Transformation that has been helpful to a friend. She has difficulty setting boundaries and following through on rules and TTT has shown her the importance of doing so. She has seen a difference in her daughter's behavior when she is clear about rules vs. letting things slide.

One of the most impressive aspects of TTT is the notion that we raise our children based on what we think they should be, rather than what they are.

On the other hand, making excuses for problem children does not teach them how to solve their problems. This idea also made sense to my friend, whose daughter has suffered some abuse in the home of a former foster family. She feels sorry for her and is therefore afraid to be firm when, in fact, firmness makes her daughter feel more secure and loved than allowing her to act out!

A wonderful program - I myself am a substitute teacher and am more careful what I say to students, knowing they are watching to see if I follow through or not. Thank you!

I am trying to use this everyday with my twin 4 year olds- I have a lot to learn and especially appreciate the newsletter

Very Good

"Professional, considerate, and supportive is the program", I would have said. The sincere concerns from Parental Support Line, and the perfect service provided by Customer Service even make the whole program more trustworthy. I very much appreciate it and am greatly attracted by its structure and professional format.

Thank you for sending me newsletters. I print them all as they are valuable in understanding how to deal with various issues with my grand daughter who, although only 7 years old, can be very difficult. She is ADHD. The program is excellent.

I found this product really works. I have transformed how I do things and I have really been able to help my children with the techniques. I relisten to it every month and hear new things. It has made a huge difference in my parenting style and my husbands and our house is so much better for it and so is our children.

For the first time since our son was four my husband and I feel that we are in control. We no longer walk on egg shells, nor do we give into him to prevent a blow up. From the first week my son was able to notice a difference in the way we were dealing with situations. At first he tried to manipulate the situation to try and get us to our "normal" responses, when that failed he tried the melt-down approach. He still tries but now it is almost comical to us to watch and we do not let him draw us into the situation. After listening to the first tape my husband came home and told me that he felt empowered when it came to dealing with our son. We still have a long road but at least for the first time in years I feel there is hope again. Thank you!

Fasinating how well it works.The little details make a difference in the results

This is exactly what I needed for my 2 sons who have dyslexia. They both test the limits, make excuses and blame everybody else for their problems. My main goal has always been to raise them to be responsible and resourceful and I truly believe this will be the key to their success.

I have never called to the parental support line, so I can't say anything about it.
I love the programm and I think James's technics are very smart and helpfull.
I have recomended to many of my friends and teachers to get this programm.

My husband was raised with violence, and I was raised in foster care. Together, we wanted our kids to be able to have a voice and a say in everything. Unfortunately, they grew into their teens with this sense of entitlement, and that adults were peers, instead of authority figures. Thanks to this amazing program, things are improving every day! We have learned many tools (calmness and adhering to the prescribed consequences being the two biggest ones for us) and they are working in helping us remember we are not ogres if we enforce a 1:00 a.m curfew on Saturday nights, instead of "everyone else's" 2:00 a.m.or later. Our teen daughters are learning self-control, boundaries, and accountability - and so are we as parents! Thank you so much for being a light at the end of the tunnel.
God bless you. :)

I can't say that I have followed the program to a T but I have listened to alot of the information and I am amazed at how well this program helps me to understand my son and why he does the things that he does.It has also helped me to look at myself and how my reactions model his behavior. It has given me a great insight into behaviors, my sons, mine and my husbands. I won't say that things are perfect but they ar certainly better!!! I am not done listening and learning, I think I will do that everyday, and become a better parent one step at a time. But Total Transformation has definately put me on the right path,for sure.
Thanks James!

Your cd's are very helpful and apply to many different kinds of kids and ages of kids. The key to success is to believe that the results are obtained by being committed in following threw with the consequences. Thanks, Phil

I think this program is wonderful. I have listened to all the discs, taken notes, have them posted around the house, etc. However, after using the program for about 3 months now, we have seen no results. My son has been diagnosed with ADHD, ODD and PTSD. Let me just say it's a tough road. We struggle daily. And nothing works. He doesn't care about consequences, disciplinary actions we or the school takes... nothing. He is so disrespectful to everyone. I could go on and on for hours, but I wont. I will just say that I think the program is wonderful and probably works for a lot of people; I just dont think it's going to work for me.

Although we are only on Disc 4, we have benefitted in some ways. At this time, early in the program, we aren't always as effective as we'd like to be, but keep trying. The Support Line is wonderful. I hope that I have another opportunity to write a review when we have had time to practice information from all of the CDs.

Thank you.

Sandi Wells

We thought our seven year old son was going through a very long phase of bad behavior. Somewhere along the line his thinking became distorted, he started not liking himself because he could not control his anger and frustration. He had no problems at school or at friends houses, it was just with his immediate family.

After a year of therapy both group and individual, I tried this program. It has helped greatly. He is still seeing a therapist for self esteem issues, but he is cooperative, polite, loving and sweet 97% of the time now.

Thank you

This program has been so helpful for my husband and I. I've witnessed changes in how we are parenting our son, and am impressed with the results! No more, "I'll do it later", from my son; no more yelling from me. I've recommended this program for other parents, who are also struggling with their children.

The program was very excellent and gave me a whole new perspective on how to gain control of my home. I am ever so indebted to Mr. Lehman and all of the staff.

Thanks so much for everything.

Susan Gerlach

The information in Total Transformation is not magic, nor secret knowledge. It is a reminder that kids do not come with an instruction book. Total Transformation is as close to that missing book of instructions that so many of us need. It gives us the reminders that there is a better way to handle situations if given the forewarning that you need to think of concequences before you react. You need to respond.

I am a counselor and parent educator. I have used the concepts from Total Transformation with my families and students. The biggest help for me was in delineating the effective parenting roles from the ineffective ones. Also, the coaching role. I have really enjoyed using - How will we know it is working, How will we know if it isn't; What will we do if it is working, What will we do if it isn't. Makes life very crystal clear. No mysteries.

Excellent program!
Parents need this today more than ever. Using this for adult children..I only wish I had it when they were younger.

This information has been life-altering in my thinking and the way I work with children. It is very down-to-earth and reminds us who the parents are and who the kids are.