Total Transformation Review
, October 23, 2014
Review by : meseva family
The total transformation program helped me see my own parenting from the other side. It helped me understand what I was doing wrong, and showed me, step by step, how to make changes in the right direction. My family life is so much better now! I started being a real parent to my children, and I can see that even my children are starting to appreciate that now.
A Coach's Perspective
, October 18, 2014
Review by : Coach Joanne
The program presented some good tools for parental use. I was hoping that the material might be helpful to me as a coach of a problem child athlete - and some of it was. The program is definitely focused on the needs of parents, however, so from my perspective, many of the suggestions - although they may have been good ones for parents - just did not apply or were not feasible for a coach spending a limited amount of time each week with the acting-out child, and having to balance dealing with that child's behavior, with the needs of the other, well-behaved kids in the class.
This Program Makes Sense
, October 14, 2014
Review by : Ladybug
This program is super helpful in teaching how to handle difficult children. The program has good values and the rationale behind the method makes sense. Our child still has a lot of work to do even after we completed the program, but now we have the parenting tools to help him learn.
, October 13, 2014
Review by : taddie35
The total transformation was a behavior learning experience for me as well as for my son. We go through life learning as we go and with the right tools and advice we get through it. In the total transformation I learned that not only that my son was out of control I was too and with the total transformation I was able to put sanity,communication,trust and accountability back into our lives and now we are both doing well in our home situation and he's doing great at school. As an single parent things are not perfect by far but it's a great start.
A Manual for Becoming an Effective Parent When Confronting Behavioral Issues in Children
, October 12, 2014
Review by : Paul Vincent
I feel blessed that I heard about the opportunity to obtain and implement the use of The Total Transformation Program for dealing with the behavior of our two sons. Learning and implementing the "Alternative Response" method has improved our communication with our sons by providing us with the necessary tools for dealing with inappropriate behaviors. It has been a slow process, and we are still trying to learn these concepts and use them effectively, but the learning curve is manageable and the results are certainly worth the effort. I really wish my parents had had this opportunity when I was growing up in the early 70's for dealing with me, and an abusive sibling, and my hope for me and all parents with children who have abusive responses to solving life's everyday problems, is that the buck stops here. It is in our power, with the necessary and appropriate tools, to effect life-changing behaviors in our children, but it has to begin with us, the parents. Thank you also to Dr. Lehman for making it possible to acquire this program for a minimal, if not totally free, cost. I was blessed with an advanced degree in education, and I could see where my immigrant parents, with their minimal educations and knowledge of the English language, would really have struggled with the program. Is the program available in other languages; i.e. Spanish?
, October 08, 2014
Review by : Ben
So much of what was shared was actually new ways of thinking for my wife and I. I realized that what I am doing can greatly encourage or discourage my child's behavior. My favorite concepts were, "You can't feel your way into acting better, but you can act your way into feeling better" and also his explanation of why "unconditional love" can be a thinking error to justify poor behavior, or rather our lack of ability to correct poor behavior.
, October 07, 2014
Review by : skyhawk
the program did what it said although not imedeatly
Total Transformation Review
, September 29, 2014
Review by : Annabell
The Total Transformation Program is something I believe everyone should be taught in high-school!! Its parenting in a nutshell. My children were in there late teens and early twenties, but I found it to be the best eye opener, practical and easily applicable program ever. I doubt there is a better one out there. I wish I had the knowledge I have now 35 years ago. The information is easy to understand and applicable in other relationships as well.
All I can say is it's wonderful!!
The name says it all!
, September 29, 2014
Review by : MMAF
This is an excellent program for children (of all ages) with serious behavior problems--the kind of problems you do not even want to admit to others that you have, because (you fear) that they make you look like a horrible parent!(When, in truth, you could not love your children more, and you are doing the best you can!!) I, especially, love certain concepts that Dr. Lehman uses, such as: Accept No Excuse for Abuse.
Anyway, I believe Dr. James Lehman is a genius, and I cannot think of any critical issue that he does not address!
Very valuable tools for parents to have.
, September 23, 2014
Review by : Big mama
I feel that this program is a must have for parents. It gives you tools to use, and a better understanding of the way kids think, but the best part is the assurance it gives parents that you can say No, and it's ok to let your children from natural consequences. I feel more in control as a parent and my children are happier and better behaved than they used to be.
I have always loved him... Now I like him too!
, September 23, 2014
Review by : Happy Mom
Total Transformation has opened a new world of communication and understanding between me and my son. Our family is more settled. We actually attend functions together and enjoy our family time again! Incredible program with great results!
Truly a Transformation!
, September 20, 2014
Review by : bandmom18
When I purchased The Total Transformation Program, I was at the end of my rope. My daughter was out of control, with ADHD and Oppositional Defiance Disorder. All she did was scream and do everything I said not to do. I was desperate for something to help. When I received the program, I listened to the Jump Start DVD and started to see immediate results. I took the full year to work on this program, but at the end of the year, I have a daughter who is calm, communicative, and a pleasure to be around. We interact on a personal level. She cares about her life now, and even my life! Truly a total transformation! I would definitely give this program a try, you have nothing to lose and everything to gain -- maybe even a new relationship with your child!
, September 16, 2014
Review by : Transformed into Happy
I ordered this program thinking it was to help my Daughter with her parenting skills. I ended up working the program instead, and not only is it for parenting, it was very helpful for my life skills! I most importantly learned how to stop arguments completely, and how to turn my everyday life into an amazing life! Totally happy with the results this program brought about within myself! It doesn't matter whether your children are young or adults! THIS PROGRAM WORKS!
never too old to learn
, September 15, 2014
Review by : mswoon
My son is now 30 years young with three children of his own. For many years, I wanted to get the Total Transformation whilst my son was in his teen years and living at home. As a single mom it just seemed impossible to dedicate any extra money to this endeavor. As a grandmother I became very concerned about my son's behavior with his children, his wife, and me.
I learned about boundaries and consequences and most importantly how I've never quite understood it enough to implement it during childrearing. In fact, what is due when confronted by my son was to confront back. Thereby, showing (in my mind) my parental strength. This was all wrong!
All came to head this past summer when I was providing a vacation with my sons family just a few weeks before the planned trip, my son verbally abused me yet again. This timing was coincidental to my finishing up the T T program. Something inside me clicked and i called off the trip citing that I "just didn't care to be with my son." It ruined everyone's anticipated fun, I was the bad guy. The babies were not gonna enjoy the beach and boardwalk and rides, all because of my "drama", according to my son. I was so guilty, I cried. But, somewhere deep inside, I regained strength through this action. My son found that I had a boundary and limits and that there was a consequence. He has been nicer since. He's been curbing his speech.
I'm hoping that I'm teaching him how to be with his children and wife.
I haven't started the "Calm Parent" yet and I know that it will be beneficial to all of us. I did learn also to state my case and walk away. I keep implementing the little things that James talks about. Better late than never!
, September 14, 2014
Review by : Jessie
I was amazed at the answers I started getting when I asked my child, "What were you thinking before you did that?" instead of "Why did you do that?" Instead of "I don't know." I got real answers, he was really thinking, but he had faulty thinking that needed correction. I tended to ask "why" back at him because that was what he always asked about everything, but it wasn't productive, it kept us from growing, and kept me frustrated. Now I have a tool I use and it works!
not for young kids
, September 11, 2014
Review by : email@example.com
I'm incredible disappointed in this program it was of very little help to me. what they don't tell you is that it is mainly geared towards teenagers. what if you have a 6 year old? I have all the problems of a teenager and my daughter is only 6. They made it seem like it would be helpful but 90% of the suggestions were related towards teens. not only that but the get it free thing was a scam. I sent my survey in and I never got my money back. I cannot recommend this product.
We’re very sorry to learn that our program has disappointed you. We commend you for taking action to help your 6 year old, and we wish we could have helped you. The techniques in the program are intended to help children ages 5-18 and have indeed helped many parents of young children. Our Parental Support Line coaches work with parents of young children to help them adapt the program techniques to young children. We see that you did have access to our PSL service for a short time. Please know that the service is always available for you to resume at any time. Sometimes the program is simply not a fit. This is why we very much appreciate constructive feedback we receive from customers in their feedback surveys. According to our records, we never received your completed feedback survey. We are very interested in reading your feedback, and if you have a copy of the completed survey you mailed in, we will gladly honor the terms of the offer. Please contact our Customer Service team at 1-800-460-2253. We will be happy to help you. Your success with your child is our common goal.
How could I take it for free when it is priceless?
, September 11, 2014
Review by : palmer227
we signed up for the free offer, but after listening to the discs of James and co., working in the workbook and implementing these practices with our 5 young children, I didn't feel right getting it for free. The program is magnificent. I'd recommend it to all. Now is it going to be made available in Spanish?
As a Pediatric Nurse Practitioner, I'd love to recommend it to all my patients or their parents that is. Most of us can't get into counseling weekly, but with this program, these resources can come right to us! Highly recommended.
, September 09, 2014
Review by : Iowa mom
My co-worker had used the Total Transformation program. She suggested I try it. Although it is very time intensive, the results are worth it. It has helped me change for the better as a parent and as a result has helped my children change for the better.
, September 09, 2014
Review by : Impressed grandmother
I purchased this program for my daughter and her family. After an unexpected divorce, she had some problems with her two daughters. It begins with parenting transformation. It's hard work, and takes commitment, but the results are worth it. We have seen an amazing change in the girls, especially with regards to respect and their ability to manage frustration. I am a Family Psychiatric NP, and I often recommend this program to the parents of some of my child and adolescent patients.
, September 09, 2014
Review by : Mom of teen boys
Dr. Lehman says you need to pay attention to the child's behavior, not his attitude. But with the help of these CDs I am changing my attitude, and that is changing everything. I no longer see my child's previous hard life as an excuse for bad behavior now. When I say something I mean it. And my child seems to notice the difference.
Don't miss this!
, September 09, 2014
Review by : NotionView
When I purchased this program, I did so for my sister. She had a very stressful home life with a 19-year-old daughter and a granddaughter who were both big challenges. I waited for her to use the program and she kept making excuses why she didn't have time. Towards the end of the year, I pushed her and she finally started to pay attention. The changes were immediate. She is still working on it, but her life has improved dramatically!
Here is the best part, however. I used the program myself, even though I didn't have children! I was intrigued by what I learned and started implementing the techniques in my business. I have 10 employees and I found I had no control over my staff. I wasn't being treated seriously and my direction was being ignored. I began to use the methods in my own business and saw a dramatic improvement! I strongly suggest that ANYONE, with or without children, use the program! It has been nothing short of miraculous for me in the way I handle my own life and how people regard me and how I see myself. It is truly empowering!
Something for every parent and every child...
, September 06, 2014
Review by : College Prof
The Total Transformation Program has it all in an easy to use learning system. The videos provide a multitude of tools for parents to use for a variety of behaviors/situations.
These can be used as a means of prevention, discipline, and long term positive results.
The best part of The Total Transformation Program is that the age, gender, and the severity are different which gives something for all people viewing the materials. In fact, I have used some of the tools in my own classroom in order to maintain structure and order without disruption.
Last, but not least, I absolutely loved the Empowering Parents Newsletter via email. These are great because I would print and read whenever I had a free moment. The articles often contained topics like recent trends, schools, gender differences, and like the entire system, providing a better means to parenting and acquiring the desired behavior.
As an educator and a single mother of 3 sons, I would not hesitate to recommend The Total Transformation program.
I am lucky because my boys have been "good kids". Still, The Total Transformation Program gave me ideas, skills, and reasons to make sure they stayed that way.
, September 03, 2014
Review by : edb
I found this program to be very helpful. I think the most important thing I learned is follow through! Thank you for all of the help!
, September 01, 2014
Review by : garycopes
i which i had ran across this sooner, so many parents need this, like asap. i work at an academy in fort stewart ga. youth chanllenge academy. this program really helps me me and the school, in giving parent back a better student/ child. the academy is for the at risk kid, we have parents that are at risk. while the child is in rolled in the academy, parents should be in rolled in this course the total transformation program (total transformation, family). thank you guys so much, your helping me to turn these kid and parents around. thanks again
Don't waist your money!
, September 01, 2014
Review by : NO HELP IN Alabama
A RIPOFF of your $300!!! A wast of time, ( if you have any spare time) to lessen to the DVDs . They don't tell you anything on how to deal with your child.
Dear No Help in Alabama,
We’re very sorry to hear that our program has disappointed you. We understand how little time parents have in a day, especially when they are struggling with their child.
Because of that, we want you to know that we are here to help you. Please don’t give up. When you ordered The Total Transformation Program, you chose the option that allows you a year to complete the program, fill out your feedback survey and receive a refund of the product price. Given that you ordered in early July, you still have time to use the program at a pace that works for you. Our Customer Service team is here to answer any questions you have about your survey along the way. You can also get help from our Parental Support Line coaches. They work with parents every day to implement the techniques in the program with their children. Access to our Support Line is always available by calling Customer Service at 1-800-460-2253.
Please know that we are here for you and want to see you succeed. In the next 10 months, we can help you to reach your goals with your child.