THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU
, November 19, 2014
Review by : Relieved & Smiling Mom
This program was a huge benefit for my whole family. I learned so much about myself, my children and others. This program to me goes way beyond just kids it's all the people we have in our lives. In regards to my son and his behaviour issues. There has been a wonderful change and our relationship has improved greatly and his communication at school has improved tremendously. I highly recommend this program for everyone.
learning a new way to parent
, November 17, 2014
Review by : richard
So far as we go through the dvds, I am finding that the adults are the ones that have to learn the new habits and pass them on to our children we have to learn new ways to react to different situations with our children not at least in my case the way my parents acted thank you for giving us a new way.
, November 11, 2014
Review by : Empowered single mom
The Total Transformation Program gave me the tools to help me be a better parent. Change begins with you! Change your parenting ways and your children will change too! The brilliant life skills Dr.Lehman shares has helped me take back control of my life. Thank you
Best Parenting Guide Ever!
, November 10, 2014
Review by : apsaunders
Total Transformation is the absolute best parenting tool I have ever found! I have taken (on average) two parenting classes per year for the past five years. I just want to be better at my role as a mom! I find it insane that parenting is the most important job of our lives, yet it's the role we learn the least about! I received zero parenting education! Then I started to seek it out. I enjoy every parenting class I take, but Total Transformation is the only one I need! I agree with every single technique it teaches! That never happens! I can apply every single idea given from Total Transformation with ease! It just makes sense! Thank you Total Transformation!
From ineffective to extremely effective parenting!
, November 04, 2014
Review by : karmakyoto
Total Transformation has changed the lives of both me and my 10 year old son. He battles with ADHD and has always ended up in trouble at school and anywhere else he might go. He's a very sweet and kind child but would end up having tantrums when he becomes overwhelmed with negative emotions. With the step by step skills learned from TT my son is a new boy! I have heard from his teachers, from family that he has become a joy to work with each day. He no longer gets in trouble daily at school or has to be told what to do. He has become proactive and pleasant. Most importantly he has gained confidence. Watching the results of his new positive behaviors has been a joy as he has become very popular with other kids at school. He has friends and is well liked, which is not something I could have said a year ago! I cannot recommend this product enough. Effective parenting is not for lazy parents and it takes ongoing work; however the results are worth it. I recommend to every parent who tells me they are less than pleased with their child's behavior...which is almost everyone. You must try it and take the advice on. If you take the advice and use the system it WILL work.
worth it just don't lose it!
, November 03, 2014
Review by : sophia
It was very thourough and very easy to understand and implement. The examples were concrete and it helped me step by step. It made me see what I was doing wrong, it also showed me how to say things with specific and appropriate wording. Just dont lose any of the sheets and forms that are delivered to you. Fill the feed back form in time and you will get totally reimbursed. And dont lose the completed sheets just before mailing them!!! Make photo copies of what you did all along the way in case you misplace your sheets.
, November 01, 2014
Review by : Denny
Total transformation was amazing teacher it gave me the tools as a parent to utilize. It showed me what to do and what not to do in order to understand my child. It showed me ways to avoid pitfalls and how to overcome meltdowns and not lose my child in that moment. The transformation program an awesome program. I would recommend it to every parent that's dealing with similar situations as mines a child with behavioral problems. This program helped my as to make positive decision in difficult situation that he may face.
, October 28, 2014
Review by : Maria
The program was very effective in helping me deal with my daughter. My daughter's behavior was so out of control it was overwhelming. One if the most helpful ways that the program helped me was in providing a systematic approach. It sort of broke things down into tangible Pieces. It gave specific techniques to use. It debunked ideas surrounding the social worker approach to bad behavior and helped me focus on forcing my daughter to change the bad behavior. By helping me organize my dealings with my daughter, it helped me see that some if her behavior was indeed caused by medical issues and I ended up sending her to a 30 day treatment program where she was diagnosed as being bi-polar. Since then, she has been better thanks to therapy and medicine. I only wish that I would have gotten this program when my daughter, who has always been difficult when she was younger. I am really grateful that I was given the tools of the transformation program to help me deal w my daughter. I think in some ways it helped me save her life.
Reluctant 5 yo son (only child)
, October 23, 2014
Review by : J&S
the Total Transformation Program teaches us parents how to separate emotions and deal with the facts. Also how to set up clear behavior expectations.
Before seeing this program, I thought it was our responsibility as parents to change our son's bad behavior. Now I know and accept the fact that it is up to him to change. Our responsibility is to coach him to make choices ... if he makes good choices he can be rewarded with things/privileges that matters to him, or if he makes poor choices, he suffers consequences.
This program offers the tools to help parents gain back the control of their house.
Total Transformation Review
, October 23, 2014
Review by : meseva family
The total transformation program helped me see my own parenting from the other side. It helped me understand what I was doing wrong, and showed me, step by step, how to make changes in the right direction. My family life is so much better now! I started being a real parent to my children, and I can see that even my children are starting to appreciate that now.
A Coach's Perspective
, October 18, 2014
Review by : Coach Joanne
The program presented some good tools for parental use. I was hoping that the material might be helpful to me as a coach of a problem child athlete - and some of it was. The program is definitely focused on the needs of parents, however, so from my perspective, many of the suggestions - although they may have been good ones for parents - just did not apply or were not feasible for a coach spending a limited amount of time each week with the acting-out child, and having to balance dealing with that child's behavior, with the needs of the other, well-behaved kids in the class.
This Program Makes Sense
, October 14, 2014
Review by : Ladybug
This program is super helpful in teaching how to handle difficult children. The program has good values and the rationale behind the method makes sense. Our child still has a lot of work to do even after we completed the program, but now we have the parenting tools to help him learn.
, October 13, 2014
Review by : taddie35
The total transformation was a behavior learning experience for me as well as for my son. We go through life learning as we go and with the right tools and advice we get through it. In the total transformation I learned that not only that my son was out of control I was too and with the total transformation I was able to put sanity,communication,trust and accountability back into our lives and now we are both doing well in our home situation and he's doing great at school. As an single parent things are not perfect by far but it's a great start.
A Manual for Becoming an Effective Parent When Confronting Behavioral Issues in Children
, October 12, 2014
Review by : Paul Vincent
I feel blessed that I heard about the opportunity to obtain and implement the use of The Total Transformation Program for dealing with the behavior of our two sons. Learning and implementing the "Alternative Response" method has improved our communication with our sons by providing us with the necessary tools for dealing with inappropriate behaviors. It has been a slow process, and we are still trying to learn these concepts and use them effectively, but the learning curve is manageable and the results are certainly worth the effort. I really wish my parents had had this opportunity when I was growing up in the early 70's for dealing with me, and an abusive sibling, and my hope for me and all parents with children who have abusive responses to solving life's everyday problems, is that the buck stops here. It is in our power, with the necessary and appropriate tools, to effect life-changing behaviors in our children, but it has to begin with us, the parents. Thank you also to Dr. Lehman for making it possible to acquire this program for a minimal, if not totally free, cost. I was blessed with an advanced degree in education, and I could see where my immigrant parents, with their minimal educations and knowledge of the English language, would really have struggled with the program. Is the program available in other languages; i.e. Spanish?
, October 08, 2014
Review by : Ben
So much of what was shared was actually new ways of thinking for my wife and I. I realized that what I am doing can greatly encourage or discourage my child's behavior. My favorite concepts were, "You can't feel your way into acting better, but you can act your way into feeling better" and also his explanation of why "unconditional love" can be a thinking error to justify poor behavior, or rather our lack of ability to correct poor behavior.
, October 07, 2014
Review by : skyhawk
the program did what it said although not imedeatly
Total Transformation Review
, September 29, 2014
Review by : Annabell
The Total Transformation Program is something I believe everyone should be taught in high-school!! Its parenting in a nutshell. My children were in there late teens and early twenties, but I found it to be the best eye opener, practical and easily applicable program ever. I doubt there is a better one out there. I wish I had the knowledge I have now 35 years ago. The information is easy to understand and applicable in other relationships as well.
All I can say is it's wonderful!!
The name says it all!
, September 29, 2014
Review by : MMAF
This is an excellent program for children (of all ages) with serious behavior problems--the kind of problems you do not even want to admit to others that you have, because (you fear) that they make you look like a horrible parent!(When, in truth, you could not love your children more, and you are doing the best you can!!) I, especially, love certain concepts that Dr. Lehman uses, such as: Accept No Excuse for Abuse.
Anyway, I believe Dr. James Lehman is a genius, and I cannot think of any critical issue that he does not address!
Very valuable tools for parents to have.
, September 23, 2014
Review by : Big mama
I feel that this program is a must have for parents. It gives you tools to use, and a better understanding of the way kids think, but the best part is the assurance it gives parents that you can say No, and it's ok to let your children from natural consequences. I feel more in control as a parent and my children are happier and better behaved than they used to be.
I have always loved him... Now I like him too!
, September 23, 2014
Review by : Happy Mom
Total Transformation has opened a new world of communication and understanding between me and my son. Our family is more settled. We actually attend functions together and enjoy our family time again! Incredible program with great results!
Truly a Transformation!
, September 20, 2014
Review by : bandmom18
When I purchased The Total Transformation Program, I was at the end of my rope. My daughter was out of control, with ADHD and Oppositional Defiance Disorder. All she did was scream and do everything I said not to do. I was desperate for something to help. When I received the program, I listened to the Jump Start DVD and started to see immediate results. I took the full year to work on this program, but at the end of the year, I have a daughter who is calm, communicative, and a pleasure to be around. We interact on a personal level. She cares about her life now, and even my life! Truly a total transformation! I would definitely give this program a try, you have nothing to lose and everything to gain -- maybe even a new relationship with your child!
, September 16, 2014
Review by : Transformed into Happy
I ordered this program thinking it was to help my Daughter with her parenting skills. I ended up working the program instead, and not only is it for parenting, it was very helpful for my life skills! I most importantly learned how to stop arguments completely, and how to turn my everyday life into an amazing life! Totally happy with the results this program brought about within myself! It doesn't matter whether your children are young or adults! THIS PROGRAM WORKS!
never too old to learn
, September 15, 2014
Review by : mswoon
My son is now 30 years young with three children of his own. For many years, I wanted to get the Total Transformation whilst my son was in his teen years and living at home. As a single mom it just seemed impossible to dedicate any extra money to this endeavor. As a grandmother I became very concerned about my son's behavior with his children, his wife, and me.
I learned about boundaries and consequences and most importantly how I've never quite understood it enough to implement it during childrearing. In fact, what is due when confronted by my son was to confront back. Thereby, showing (in my mind) my parental strength. This was all wrong!
All came to head this past summer when I was providing a vacation with my sons family just a few weeks before the planned trip, my son verbally abused me yet again. This timing was coincidental to my finishing up the T T program. Something inside me clicked and i called off the trip citing that I "just didn't care to be with my son." It ruined everyone's anticipated fun, I was the bad guy. The babies were not gonna enjoy the beach and boardwalk and rides, all because of my "drama", according to my son. I was so guilty, I cried. But, somewhere deep inside, I regained strength through this action. My son found that I had a boundary and limits and that there was a consequence. He has been nicer since. He's been curbing his speech.
I'm hoping that I'm teaching him how to be with his children and wife.
I haven't started the "Calm Parent" yet and I know that it will be beneficial to all of us. I did learn also to state my case and walk away. I keep implementing the little things that James talks about. Better late than never!
, September 14, 2014
Review by : Jessie
I was amazed at the answers I started getting when I asked my child, "What were you thinking before you did that?" instead of "Why did you do that?" Instead of "I don't know." I got real answers, he was really thinking, but he had faulty thinking that needed correction. I tended to ask "why" back at him because that was what he always asked about everything, but it wasn't productive, it kept us from growing, and kept me frustrated. Now I have a tool I use and it works!
not for young kids
, September 11, 2014
Review by : email@example.com
I'm incredible disappointed in this program it was of very little help to me. what they don't tell you is that it is mainly geared towards teenagers. what if you have a 6 year old? I have all the problems of a teenager and my daughter is only 6. They made it seem like it would be helpful but 90% of the suggestions were related towards teens. not only that but the get it free thing was a scam. I sent my survey in and I never got my money back. I cannot recommend this product.
We’re very sorry to learn that our program has disappointed you. We commend you for taking action to help your 6 year old, and we wish we could have helped you. The techniques in the program are intended to help children ages 5-18 and have indeed helped many parents of young children. Our Parental Support Line coaches work with parents of young children to help them adapt the program techniques to young children. We see that you did have access to our PSL service for a short time. Please know that the service is always available for you to resume at any time. Sometimes the program is simply not a fit. This is why we very much appreciate constructive feedback we receive from customers in their feedback surveys. According to our records, we never received your completed feedback survey. We are very interested in reading your feedback, and if you have a copy of the completed survey you mailed in, we will gladly honor the terms of the offer. Please contact our Customer Service team at 1-800-460-2253. We will be happy to help you. Your success with your child is our common goal.